Error 10 Educate Children - Although many parents know, that educating children is a big responsibility, but there are still many parents who neglect and underestimate this problem. Thus ignoring the problems of education of this child, not paying the slightest attention to the development of their children.
Only later, when the children do ungodly, against parents, or deviate from the rules of religion and social order, many parents begin to panic or even blame her. Tragically, many are not aware that his parents actually become a major cause of the ungodly attitude.
Negligent or wrong in educating children the many different forms; which we unknowingly contributed to the emergence of an attitude of disobedience to parents, and juvenile delinquency.
Here are ten forms of common mistakes made by parents in educating their children.
[1]. Foster Fear And Minder In Children
Sometimes, when a child cries, we scare them to stop crying. We fear them with a picture of a ghost, genie, the sound of wind and others. The impact, the child will grow up to be a coward: Fear of his own shadow, afraid of something that was not to be feared. For example afraid to shower alone, afraid to sleep alone because often heard stories about ghosts, jinns and others.
The most severe and without realizing it, we have instilled fear to himself. Or for example, we are concerned when they fall and there was blood on his face, hands or knees. Yet should we be calm and smiling face appeared frightened the child. Instead of just scare her, slapped her face, or scold him and exaggerate the problems. As a result, children are increasingly loud crying, and will be used to be scared when they see blood or feel pain.
[2]. Educate Being Arrogant, Long Tongue, Congkak Against Others. And That Considered Attitude Brave.
This error is the opposite point first. The truth is that being the middle, not excessive and not minus-less. Dare not necessarily by being cocky or arrogant to others. However, brave stance that is consistent place and fear when it is something that should be feared. For example: fear of lying, because he knows, if God does not like the kid who likes to lie, or fear of dangerous wild animals. We educate our children to be brave and not afraid to practice the truth.
[3]. Children Living familiarize carouse, extravagance and Arrogant.
With this practice, the child can grow into a child who likes luxury, likes to have fun. Only themselves, no matter the circumstances of others. Educating children as this can damage the nature, kill istiqomah attitude in being ascetic in the world, membinasakah muru'ah (self-esteem) and truth.
[4]. Always Meets Demand Children
Most parents are always there to give any desired her, without thinking about the good and bad for children. In fact, not every child the desired beneficial or appropriate to the age and needs. For example, the child asked for a new bag that is a trend, when only a month ago parents bought her a new bag. This would only be a waste of money. If children are accustomed fulfilled all his request, then they will grow into a child who does not care about the value of money and the severity of earning a living. As well as they will be the people who can not spend the money well.
[5]. Always Meets Demand Son, when Crying, especially small children.
It often happens, we are still a small child asking something. If we reject it for a reason, he will force or pull out his gun, which is crying. Finally, parents will soon meet his request for pity or for the child immediately stopped crying. This can cause the child to be weak, whiny and had no identity.
[6]. Too Hard And Stiff Facing Them, Fairness Limit Exceeded.
For example, by hitting them until the bruises, scolded by yelling and scolding, or in ways other hard. This sometimes happens when a child deliberately do wrong. Though he (probably) only once did.
[7]. Too Stingy In Kids, Fairness Limit Exceeded
There are also parents who are too stingy to his children, until the children feel less fulfilled needs. Ultimately encourage the children to find the money themselves with various ways. For example: by stealing, begging to others, or in any other way. What's worse, there are parents who could entrust their children to the orphanage to reduce the burden on himself. In fact, some who could sell their children, because it was not able to make a living. Naa'udzubillah mindzalik
[8]. Not Loving And Loving Them, So Make Them Finding Love Beyond Home Up Finding sought.
Thus the phenomenon is widespread. Has caused the children to fall into promiscuity -waiyadzubillah-. One girl, for example, because they do not get attention from her family she was looking for attention from men outside the family. He was pleased to get the attention of men, because it is often praised, seduce and so on. Until he was willing to give up his honor for the sake of false love.
[9]. Taking into account only the physical needs only.
Many parents think that they have to give the best for their children. Many parents feel that providing a good education, food and drink are nutritious, good clothes and school quality. Meanwhile, there is no attempt to educate their children to religious correctly and noble. Parents forget that a child is not enough to just be material. Children also need attention and affection. If compassion is not in getting his home, he would seek it from others.
[10]. PRIS Too Good To Son-son
There are some parents who always assume good faith to their children. Thought, if the children are fine and felt there was nothing to worry about, never check on the children, do not know a close friend of his, or any activity. Strongly believes to their children. When suddenly, to find his son affected or deviate symptoms, for example exposed to drugs, then the old man startled. Trying to cover it up and immediately forgave him. Finally the remaining are just really regret useless.
Thus the ten mistakes that often the parents. That maybe we did not realize when it has done so. For that, let's strive to continuously seek knowledge, especially with regard to children's education, so that we avoid mistakes in educating children, which can be fatal for their future. We always pray, I hope our children grow up to be righteous and shalihah generation and noble. Allaah knows best bishshawab.
